Simon Sinek claims there are four factors contributing to a disturbing trend in statistics where the millennial generation is experiencing plummeting self-esteem, increases in addictive behaviour, depression, suicide and death due to drug overdoses. The first being failed parenting strategies which was discussed in Millennial Paradox - Part I - Helping Hand or Holding Back?
According to Simon Sinek the second reason for why you might be challenged when working with someone from the millennial generation is “technology”.
For starters I am prefacing this blog with the fact that I am Gen X and in terms of being social media savvy I am lagging behind in practice and also desire to fully embrace (and keep up with) social media in all its forms. Therefore I probably have some unconscious negative bias towards the ability to build relationships with people over social media.
Before I lose everyone under 33 right here ….. I challenge you to keep reading.
Have you ever felt like you were sinking? You are so busy with work, running around after the children, worrying about paying the bills, maintaining the family home, volunteering on the P&C that you feel like you are treading water with your head just breaking the surface. Everything seems out of balance and your centre of gravity is off.
Building a ship is like building a great life. If you don’t get the centre of gravity right you will sink like a ship
Getting the centre of gravity right in shipbuilding is paramount to launching a ship that floats. Many a naval architect has got it wrong only to find the ship moving down the slipway into the water and quickly either lists heavily to one side, or worst still sinks to the bottom before it even goes on its maiden voyage.
Shipbuilding provides a great analogy for life.
To build a ship you need a design and design checks, a plan, materials, resources and time to put it all together. Likewise to ensure a life that floats you need the same things. Most people don’t have one or more these elements and much of the time life is pretty hit and miss with people finding themselves in deep water on a leaky boat and in crisis mode where emergency help is required.
There are 5 basic stages to building a ship and your life:
Stage 1 – Design with the Life of Type in mind
In ship design, “Life of Type” means the expected lifespan of the vessel that is being designed and built. The Huon Class Minehunter vessels, for example, built in the late 1990’s in Newcastle were designed with an expected lifespan of 20 years.
Recently I watched an interview with Simon Sinek explaining the millennial paradox and why you might be challenged when working with someone born after 1984. He claimed that there were four factors contributing to a disturbing trend in statistics where this generation is experiencing plummeting self-esteem, increases in addictive behaviour, depression, suicide and death due to drug overdoses:
Now I know plenty of well balanced, happy and responsible young people under 33 so I recognise that being categorised as a millennial in this context may seem like a gross injustice to you. In the same way that as a Gen X (that’s me) being tarred with the same general brush that my generation is typically being perceived to be disaffected and directionless ….. hmmm
But here’s the thing, you are likely to become parents too in the next few years so will your children befall the same increase in statistics as they say your generation is prone to?
The facts are that the statistics are rising which means there a greater proportion of young people experiencing depression and addictive behaviours than there was before (and probably across a broader generational range than we are talking about here).
“You have got to be in it to win it” are the words mumbled the morning after the $50 million lottery is drawn and people in the game check their tickets over breakfast.
By the time breakfast is over and the email alert hasn’t pinged or the phone is silent there is resignation in the voice because “some other lucky so and so won it …. oh well maybe next time”.
The thing with playing lottery is that you can choose whether you want to spend your hard earned moolah on being “in it” or to spend it on something else. And yes you DO have to be in it to win it. Never a raffle prize was won without obtaining a ticket first.
What about the game of life?
Each morning you get up you have purchased another ticket in life. Some people hold a shiny golden ticket full of possibilities, opportunity and prizes, like the one the child in Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory had. Whilst others hold a dull and lack lustre ticket like the one you take at the delicatessen as you wait in line, waiting as others push in anyway.
The difference between the lottery and having the golden ticket in life is the amount of winning tickets available and the expiry date.
The lottery, footy raffle, and a TAB ticket all have one thing in common. That is the availability of winning tickets. There is only one set of winning numbers, one winning raffle ticket and only one greyhound will make it to the finish line first.
In the game of life anybody can have a winning ticket …. There is no limit and there is no expiry date.
Why is it that some people always seem to be the lucky ones, get all the breaks and seem to be holding the golden ticket?
There is nothing lucky about holding a golden ticket. ....
The days of reading maps and plotting courses with sextants and compasses have largely faded into the past. In the 21st century, technology has made finding our desired destination as easy as the click of a button. If you are in an unfamiliar city you can use a navigational aid to successfully arrive at your meeting or appointment. By searching for “nearest restaurants”, your smart phone will find one for you then proceed to tell you how to get there, and how long it will take depending on your mode of transport. It even does a risk assessment of sorts and produces a number of routes with information about tolls, roadworks or other obstacles along the way. Very little thought from you is required and no resources except you and your device.
A little less automatic and requiring a bunch of collective thought and resources depending on the complexity is a work or business project. Generally a Project Manager is engaged to undertake a project at work or in business using some level of project management plan, or roadmap. There is a project destination in mind (outcome or deliverable), a plan is developed from a whole bunch of inputs, a set of actions are produced , along the way progress is monitored via a set of milestones (smaller goals) and at the end there are a set of measures which determine whether you got to your destination. The course taken on the roadmap has considered resources required (time, people, cash, and infrastructure), the potential risks or roadblocks and strategies to mitigate them, and how the Project Manager will know that the project has met expectations and the project destination has been achieved. When things come up that throw the plan off track, the team can go back to the roadmap and make the appropriate decisions and tweaks required to get back on track.
Earle Nightingale, author of The Strangest Secret audio series said: “All you need is the plan, the roadmap, and the courage to press on to your destination”.
So what about your life?
So far there is no technological device in which we can access a satellite to determine where we are now with respect to our life journey. You can’t just type in the destination (the life you want to live) and then .. cool … up pops a road map.
My passions are nature, people, and building cultures of cooperation, harmony, sharing and reverence for life. I enjoy working with people to help them understand themselves and others so they can reach their full potential in life.