You have had a chance to fully or at least partially unwind. It is not until you stopped that you realised that you were a tightly wound spring in December. You had been swept into the pre-Christmas vortex where time speeds up, the pressure is on to get stuff finished at work and at home, and the world gets manic about preparing for Christmas.
Crikey where did 2016 go? … you marvel or lament shaking your head!
You might have a chance to have a think about what it is you want to put back on your list to do and things that you want to take off in 2017. You may have even committed to making some New Year’s resolution.
Good or bad you now have a list that was either flung together on the spur of the moment on New Year’s Eve or maybe you had at least put some thought into it.
Either way you have broadcast it to friends and relatives and maybe even the world through some form of social media!
Bugger! Now you HAVE to put your money where your mouth was and do something!
Putting what you said you would do into practice can be easier said than done. Here are three tips that will help you successfully achieve your goals.
TIP 1 - THINK with your HEART not your HEAD
How many times have you made a resolution based on what your head has told you to do (or the heads of others)? There is some perverse sense of guilt that comes over us because we think we should be doing things and we silently beat ourselves up when we don’t do it.
You have said to yourself "I really:
· Should lose weight"
· Should give up beer"
· Should exercise more"
· Should give up smoking"
· Should meditate daily"
· Should spend more time with the kids"
· Should read more books"
· Should do this and should do that!!
You have listened to the media, medical experts, friends, family and the little voice in your head tell you that if you did all of these things your life would be better.
It sounded easy at the time and it really isn’t resonating now. Your head is telling you it is the “right” thing to do or “I will feel better” after I get going.
So why can’t you start?
Does the thought of doing whatever you had decided to do make you feel excited to get off your backside and make a start?
If not, chances are YOUR HEART really isn’t in it.
You realise that you decided to do these things because other people told you it was a good idea or you “need” to do it. They are someone else’s resolutions and we are so used to comparing ourselves with others that we think they must be best for us as well.
You don’t really believe that by making these changes your life will really improve especially since it sounds like so much sacrifice. Words like LOSING weight and GIVING UP beer sounds too much like you are really missing out.
I mean how much is sweating three times a week at the gym really going to help you anyway?
It sounds like hard work.
Your WHY is not big enough and your why comes from what your HEART really desires not what you head thinks you need.
You are encouraged to revisit your list, feel into your heart and ask yourself WHY you want to make a change in this a part of your life. Look for a WHY that tugs at your heart strings and that will give you a benefit that really feels like it is the best thing for you.
Why do you want to lose weight?
· More energy to run around with the children?
· Want to stay healthy so I don’t miss my child’s graduation, wedding, big birthdays?
Imagine how you would feel if you could possibly miss out on these things. Your motivation to start is much more connected to how you will feel rather how you think.
Now rejig your list.
What stays, what gets crossed off and what new, more meaningful resolutions get added to the list.
If you look at your list and are excited about getting going you off to a great start!
TIP 2 – Take a REALITY check
OK so the end of January is nearly here and life is kicking back in. The kids are back at school soon, you are back at work and you are going up through the gears again as life speeds up to its usual momentum.
You have signed up to the gym, gone a few times and all of a sudden you find yourself running out of time. You realise that your new gym time means you and your partner are like ships passing in the night and you don’t even get to have a chat anymore. The gym membership is more than your budget can deal with at the moment and now you have signed up to a monthly fee and can’t seem to get there which is not making the best use of the money going out. You start to regret ever doing that and resent the fact that you are paying out money and don’t have the time to get there!!
At the end of the year we tend to make New Year’s resolutions without even considering what impact they will have on the other parts of our lives.
Our decisions are quick and made in isolation. Rarely do we sit down and consider how making a change in one area will affect what happens in another.
How will losing weight affect your time, relationships and expenditure?
For each of your list promises take a look at how they will impact the other areas of your life. In the areas of time, relationships, finances, health, and lifestyle what are the pros and cons?
Refer back to TIP 1. If this has a BIG WHY coming from your HEART look at any cons and work out how could you work around them?
This will help you make informed decisions about whether not they are doable this year. It may be that you need to rejig and drop something else less important to fit it in.
NOW you have a list you can work with. Happy days!
So, if you haven’t already ... GET STARTED!
TIP 3 – TRACK your progress
Great you have an awesome list, your heart is in it, it is doable and you have made a start. It’s tough some days when unexpected thing come up that take away your focus. You miss a couple of gym days because of work or you met up with some of your friends and couldn’t resist having a beer or wine with your buddies.
Hey don’t beat yourself up! Let go of the guilty feeling.
There is probably not a person out there who could say that the stay on the wagon 100% of the time. We have all fallen off the wagon before. We start out great and then the wheels fall off and we revert to old habits.
It takes time to embed a change into your life and at least 21 days of consecutive commitment to the change before the change becomes a habit and even then we stray occasionally.
Many people find it hard to stay focussed on the task over time without some sort of accountability. When taking on change I have found it is great to be able to measure my success visually using a tracking chart.
The key to successful change is CONSISTENCY. Often you get so caught up in your daily life that a week goes by and you haven’t done what you had set out to do. A week becomes a month and all of a sudden half the year is over and your New Year’s resolution is in your dim and distant memory.
You swallow your feeling of guilt and you promise yourself you will start next year.
A great way to keep yourself on track is to track your progress.
This becomes a daily visual reminder of where you are up to with your progress and serves two purposes.
My head refers to my HEART which tells reminds me WHY those things are on the list (refer TIP 1).
Then my HEAD gets me moving again to take action.
It’s easy to make up your own monthly tracking chart.
If you would like to save time though, I have done one for you.
You just fill in your New Year’s resolutions and you can add and subtract as your focus changes during the year.
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